Category: WOMEN

To the Women Who Are Afraid

Alison Stine

November 4, 2016 at 12:17 pm

Photo credits to Nshepard via Flickr Creative Commons. Originally published on MomsRising.  There’s a nagging suspicion inside you that something is wrong. He calls you names. He denies your feelings. He talks over you; yells at you; humiliates you; and re-writes reality, including the reality of what happened to you. Maybe you wouldn’t call it abuse, […]

Announcing, my forthcoming memoir: MAID: A Single Mother’s Journey from Cleaning House to Finding Home

Stephanie Land

September 8, 2016 at 10:50 am

On June 16th, I celebrated my youngest daughter Coraline’s second birthday. While she opened presents, I relished the memory of her entering my life. She was born a month after I’d graduated college, during a time when I was totally unsure of how I’d find enough work or how to make it as a freelancer. […]

There Is Reason for Black Women to Fear Traffic Stops

Community Change

August 23, 2016 at 10:24 am

Photo credits to Luca Venturi.  Originally published on The Undefeated.  Not long after I arrived in Cambridge, Massachusetts, last August for a yearlong fellowship, a friend back in Memphis, Tennessee, asked me how I liked the city. I raved about the city’s walkability and the beauty of Boston’s subways. Compared with Memphis’ horribly inefficient bus systems, […]

What Happens When You Can’t Afford Self-care

Stephanie Land

June 13, 2016 at 1:46 pm

Originally published on Talk Poverty. For the last year, I have been keenly aware of my dire need for two things: therapy and exercise. But for those who struggle to make ends meet like I do, it’s normal to live a life without these perks—even though many consider them necessary elements of a healthy lifestyle. […]

Sheryl Sandberg Thinks She Finally Gets Single Moms, But She Doesn’t Get Me

Stephanie Land

May 10, 2016 at 3:30 pm

Originally posted in SheKnows. I read Sheryl Sandberg’s recent Facebook post from the trenches of a horrible Mother’s Day weekend. The youngest had thrown up on Friday night, and we slept on the couch, sitting up and surrounded by towels, and didn’t move much the next day. Mother’s Day came, and I tried to put […]

Saying Your House is Messy Because You Play With Your Kids is a Privilege

Stephanie Land

at 10:10 am

Originally published in the Washington Post. I grew up in what some would call an immaculately clean home. I hated my mom a little for it. I wasn’t allowed to paint my nails, since they’d chip and “look trashy.” My brother and I didn’t run around in clothes that had holes or were stained. In […]

Domestic Violence is Trapping Women in More Than Just Bad Relationships

Stephanie Land

May 9, 2016 at 1:48 pm

Originally published on SheKnows. There are moments in my life that I can return to easily. I don’t have to close my eyes or envision the surroundings or what it smelled like. It might be a moment I can sit in effortlessly because that was what I was doing — sitting on an old love […]

Here’s How Many People it Takes to Replace a Single Mom

Stephanie Land

April 27, 2016 at 11:36 am

Originally published on SheKnows.  In the weeks building up to a business trip, I created a schedule for the five people who’d replace me, a single mom with two kids, for two days. It listed the phone numbers of about a dozen people as well, just in case. The night before leaving, I wrote out […]

Just Because I’m Poor Doesn’t Mean My Kid Shouldn’t Have Nice Things

Stephanie Land

April 7, 2016 at 4:06 pm

Originally published on She Knows.  My daughter and I were living in a conservative area when I started to notice an outcry to test people receiving public assistance for drug use. I relied on food stamps to help make ends meet at the time, while I was working full-time as a housecleaner and going to […]

It Is Easier to Have a ‘Spirited’ Child When You Are a White Parent

Stephanie Land

November 10, 2015 at 11:42 am

Originally published on The Guardian.  I have what’s known as a “spirited” child. Mia has run me ragged since she knew how to walk. She’d run across soccer fields as a toddler, never once looking back. I have learned how to navigate her strong nature while nurturing it as well. I raised her to think […]

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